Six Valentine’s Day ideas for celebrating with someone with dementia

January 15, 2018

For many of us, Valentine’s Day marks a special time dedicated to recognizing and appreciating our significant others.

However, if your spouse or partner has Alzheimer’s or other kind of dementia, the holiday might also bring about painful reminders of the aspects of your relationship that have changed.

While it can be difficult or even painful to celebrate Valentine’s Day when your partner is unable or unwilling to actively participate, for couples who regularly honored the day, it might be even more painful to pretend it doesn’t exist.

Despite  complications that come with the progression of dementia, there are still ways you can stay connected with your loved one, and appreciate your love for them, both past and present.

Show your love, past and present, with these 6 ideas to make your day special:

  1. If you’re married, go through photos or video from the day together
  2. Bake and decorate heart shaped treats
  3. Watch a romantic comedy, or other favorite film, together
  4. Reminisce on the day you met or how you fell in love
  5. Brighten up a space with a fresh flower arrangement
  6. Enjoy a special meal together from your favorite restaurant (and, remember, you can always order it to-go if you’re concerned about eating out)

Ultimately, acknowledging your partnership is the best you can possibly do for a partner with dementia — and for yourself. Remind them that they are loved, that they love you, and that you continue to share a connection.